Supplement to pattern changing for abused women : an educational program / Marilyn Shear Goodman, Beth Creager Fallon

Includes bibliographical references and index.

1. Your rights and the Impact of Abuse--Basic rights--Defining the abuse problem--2. Family roles and abuse: Why is it so hard to leave?:- When there is abuse, what is whose problem?--Why is it so hard to leave --3. The Dysfunctional childhood legacy:- Factors--Results--4. Boundaries and good-bye to old patterns--Boundaries--Old patterns--How to change unhealthy Patterns--5. About feelings: Grief, Fear and Guilt:- Sadness and grief--From guilt to responsibility--6. More about feelings: Anger:- Understanding anger--Steps for handling the anger with yourself--Steps toward taking action--7. Boundary setting using assertiveness skills 1: Myth and reality:- What is assertiveness skills training?--Definition of assertiveness--Comparison of assertive, Nonassertive, and aggressive behaviors--Women and assertiveness--Trusting yourself to be assertive--Stumbling blocks to assertiveness--Some myths about assertiveness--Assertiveness practice--8. Boundary setting using assertiveness skills 2: Techniques:- Rules for assertiveness--Assertiveness techniques--9. Boundary setting using assertiveness skills 3: Requests and authority figures:- Why is making a request so hard?--Why is refusing a request so hard?--Dealing with authority figures--10. Boundary setting using assertiveness skills 4: Practice:- Practicing assertiveness skills--Assertiveness and anger--A word of caution--11. Setting realistic goals:- How to set realistic goals--Achieving your goals--I need. . . , I want . . . , I deserve . . . 12. New patterns of decision making:- Why decision making is so difficult--Decision making in a new light--Decision-making steps--After the decision--13. Healthy Relationships:- Do healthy relationships really exist?--How healthy relationships begin--How a healthy relationship feels---Problems, conflicts, and disagreements--We all need a sense of family--Making the strengths of strong families a part of your life--14. Changed Patterns:- New understanding--Practiced techniques form new patterns.